February 04, 2011

/more grumpy

So, on top of the shit that I had to deal with someone stealing my images and uploading them to a porn site, about an hour after that I had to deal with an asshole of a photographer that thinks he knows better than everyone else.

I joined Model Insider because I heard about it from somewhere (I honestly can't remember where) and I figured, the more exposure the better. I haven't done much poking around on the site, so this morning I decided to look around on the forums. I ran across a forum post started complaining about how my "About Me" section was too long. The OP was personally attacking me just because he didn't want to read it all. People responded to him to say that, yes, it was long, but it was all relevant information that needed to be in there.

He responded by calling me a "self-deluded moron" and accused me of having an attitude.

I politely responded to the thread apologizing for the length, and explaining that I would prefer to put as much relevant information out there that someone might need to know for a shoot. He responded saying that I was "a princess that requires special handling" and that "within 15 seconds of reading [my] profile [he] wanted to cut his own throat".

At that point I stopped responding to him, but responded to others comments in the thread about how to improve the look and approachability of my profile, and amended quite a lot of it based on suggestions that they had made. Not once did I make any kind of comment that I disagreed with their reasoning or anything like that. I took their advice and changed around my profile. I probably won't do this for all of them, but I have learned that for this website I need to keep it shorter, including only listing 5-6 of the people I have worked with (which they complained about, for reasons which I don't understand).

I had a pleasant conversation with the site mod on the forum and another photographer, and when they said it was nice to find someone that actually accepts feedback, I told them that I accept feedback and that if people have suggestions that I more than welcome them, but that I don't appreciate being insulted by someone who is rude. (Keep in mind that I said this to the site mod, not to the asshole OP, and that by now the site mod had made references to knowing the OP for a while, so I assumed they were friends.)

The OP responded with as list of insults. Call me a:
Narcissistic twit
Egomaniacal blow hard
Self absorbed sisyphean
Egocentric suck wad
Self centered jack tard
Preoccupied puss head
Naval gazing gash
Self involved princess
Shit head
He then proceeded to write an entire paragraph that insults me.

I am not exaggerating about this. I have this entire post screen-capped.

The site mod then posted about how he could see humor in this, which really made me worry about who was running the site, and did nothing about it.

What the OP did is clearly a violation of their Terms of Services, which state:
"The following is a non-exclusive list of actions and content that are prohibited on ModelInsider.com's site: Uploading, posting or otherwise transmitting any content that is unlawful, harmful, threatening, abusive, harassing, tortuous, defamatory, vulgar, obscene, libelous, invasive of another's privacy, hateful or racially, ethnically or otherwise objectionable."

His posts are the definition of defamation (which is defined as "false or unjustified injury of the good reputation of another; communication of false statements about a person that injure the reputation of or deter others from associating with that person"), not to mention they are harassing, vulger, and hateful.

Want to know the worst part about this? Because the site mod is apparently friends with the OP, even if I try to do anything about it, nothing will happen. Not only did they find it humorous, but it was stated that there are people on the site simply because of the OP.

"ModelInsider.com reserves the right to modify or remove anything submitted to its service and to cancel any free membership, at any time, for any reason and without prior notice. In addition, ModelInsider.com, in its sole discretion, may terminate your account including accounts of paying members, or block your access to certain member features including but not limited to the member forums, for violation of the letter or spirit of the TOS."

None of that would actually happen, which is bullshit in my opinion.

I really cannot tell you how much I seriously have considered quitting all together because of the bullshit I have had to deal with today. You really have no idea.


  1. I'm sorry to hear you have had so much BS to deal with. It is sad that some people's lives are so low they can only raise themselves up by attempting to demean others. I've had the privilege to work with you once, and knew immediately that you are a wonderful, beautiful, young woman, deserving nothing less than the best life has to offer. Keep your spirits up, and know that for every pinhead hater, there are many more of us that love and respect your work. I am looking forward to our scheduled shoot in a few weeks.


  2. I would leave this site. I'm sure you can find better places to post pictures on. Have you tried a site like onemodelplace? Keep looking and you'll find the right places to post on :)

    ~Jess XXOO~

  3. I'm on that OMP, and like 8 or 9 other modeling sites. This is just a new one that shows promise

  4. For some reason when certain personality types get on forums the seem to loose their minds. The anonymity of it, or the lack of face to face interaction seems to embolden them to behavior that they would not begin to show in person. So sorry you have to deal with such people.